Katlego Sekhu
Anonymous says their house is still empty, and they haven’t even settled
A listener shared that she and her husband recently bought their first house, and her in-laws now expect them to host the family for Christmas.
Although she agreed at first, she admits she isn’t ready. The house is still unfurnished, the timing feels too rushed, and the pressure is starting to overwhelm her.
She is considering calling her mother-in-law to cancel, but she is worried about disappointing the family. Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, Anonymous wants to know whether there are any blind spots she might be overlooking.
“After a year of marriage, my husband and I finally bought our first home this year. A few weeks ago, my mom-in-law called and asked if we could host Christmas and use it as a housewarming too. She caught me off guard, and because I didn’t want to seem rude or difficult, I agreed.
“But Uncle T, I regret agreeing. Our house is still empty. We’re not settled. I don’t feel comfortable yet, and the thought of hosting a whole Christmas is stressing me out. When I brought it up to my husband, he just said I should’ve said no from the start-and that now it’s too late to back out because everyone is already preparing to come to our house.
“I don’t want to disappoint my mom-in-law, but I also don’t want to spend my first Christmas in our new home feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and pressured to make things look “perfect” when we’re not even settled in ourselves. How do I explain to my husband – and to her – that l’m not ready to host, without sounding ungrateful or rude? I want our first Christmas in this home to feel peaceful, not like a performance. Right now, I’m torn between keeping everyone happy and protecting my own sanity. I feel stuck.”
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