Anonymous has asked his wife to choose between her family and their marriage.
Katlego Sekhu
A listener shares that his wife owns the house they live in. All was going well until her brother moved in. He says the brother has turned their home into a party spot and doesn’t respect their space. When he raised this with his wife, she said she couldn’t just send her brother out onto the street.
Reaching out to The Best T in the City, Anonymous wants to know if he’s wrong for asking his wife to choose between her family and their marriage.
“When I met my now wife, she was already independent and owned her own house, something I deeply admired about her. Before we got married, I asked her what the plan was for the house, just thinking ahead, would we sell it, rent it out, or what? She told me her brother would be moving in.
“To be honest, I wasn’t thrilled with that idea. Personally, I would’ve preferred she sold it, fewer complications, less baggage. But I didn’t want to come across as controlling, and it was her property, so I let it go. I figured she knew her brother better, and maybe it would work out.
“Fast forward three years into our marriage, and that house has now become a serious problem. Her brother did move in. It’s basically turned into a party house. Every weekend there’s loud music, people coming in and out, sometimes even on weeknights. The neighbours have complained, and honestly, it’s embarrassing.
“The house is falling apart. The garden’s overgrown, repairs are ignored, and from what we hear, the inside is a complete mess. My wife is heartbroken. She says she doesn’t even recognise her brother anymore. I told her straight – it’s time to kick him out. But she keeps saying, “He’s my brother, I can’t just put him on the street.” And I get that. It’s family. But at what point does protecting family start hurting your own home?
“It’s stressing her out, and honestly, it’s starting to affect our marriage. She’s torn between being a sister and being a wife, and I feel like I’m being asked to stay silent to keep the peace. I’ve been patient and tried to let her handle it, but now I’m wondering if I should step in directly, even if it causes drama, because this can’t go on. My first thought is for her brother to move out, repair it and put it on the market? What could be my blind spot here?”
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