Katlego Sekhu
A listener shares that she and her husband divorced two years ago and have been co-parenting successfully.
However, her ex-mother-in-law keeps trying to pull her back into the past, constantly sharing updates about what her ex has been up to.
For the listener, these unsolicited updates feel like a step backward, especially as she has moved on with her life. Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, she seeks advice on how to handle the situation respectfully while protecting her peace.
“I got divorced two years ago. My ex and I are co-parenting, and honestly, we’re doing okay. We communicate when we need to, our child is happy, and there’s no unnecessary drama. It’s not perfect, but it’s peaceful, and that peace means everything to me. The problem isn’t with him, though – it’s with his mother. We used to get along well; she was kind and respectful.
“But lately, things have shifted. She’s constantly bringing me updates I never asked for, like who my ex is dating, how serious it is, and even that he’s expecting another child. She shares it casually, as if it’s an everyday conversation, but every time she does, something in me tightens. What am I supposed to do with this information? I stay polite, change the subject, and give short answers. But she doesn’t take the hint. Now, whenever her name pops up on my phone, I feel uneasy.
“I know she probably means well in her own way, but it’s starting to feel like an emotional sabotage – pulling me back into a chapter l’ve already closed. She’s still my child’s grandmother, and I don’t want to be disrespectful. But I’m tired. I’ve worked so hard to rebuild my peace, and these little “updates” are chipping away at it.
“So, Uncle T, do I block her and protect my sanity, or keep things polite for the sake of harmony? Could my blind spot be that I’m mistaking politeness for peace or that l’m still afraid to set boundaries because I don’t want to look bitter?”
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