Katlego Sekhu
A listener shares that she has never truly loved her husband. She agreed to marry him because he felt safe and could provide financially.
Years into the marriage, she now feels resentful and believes she made the wrong decision. Reaching out to fellow Best T in the City listeners, Anonymous wants to know if there are any blind spots she might be overlooking.
“I knew the day my husband came to pay lobola that he wasn’t the man for me. Deep down, I felt it – that quiet, uneasy voice that whispered, “This isn’t your story.” But I ignored it. I was pregnant with baby number two, and fear spoke louder than truth. I couldn’t face my parents again – not with another child out of wedlock, and from a different father. The shame felt heavier than my heart’s truth. So, I smiled for the pictures, wore the dress, and told myself maybe love would grow with time.
“It’s been five years since then. My husband has been good to me – calm, respectful, and steady. He provides, he’s never hurt me, and by all accounts, I should be happy. But I’m not. There’s an emptiness that sits quietly in my chest. I go through the motions – cooking, smiling, playing wife – but my heart is never fully there.
“Sometimes, I look at him and feel guilty for not loving him the way he deserves. Other times, I feel angry at myself for choosing comfort over truth. Lately, I get this overwhelming urge to run – not from him, but from the version of myself that settled. And I can’t help but wonder… is this the price l’m paying for my past? For falling pregnant twice with different men? Is this what I deserve – to live a life that looks perfect from the outside but feels hollow inside? Uncle T, I’m lost. What could be my blind spot?”
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