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Posting on social media can be as bad for mental health as drinking and smoking, warn experts
SOCIAL media before bed might be as bad for your mood as boozing or smoking weed, say scientists.
A study by Bristol University found people who posted on X, aka Twitter, after 11pm had “meaningfully worse” mental health.

The researchers reckon staying up late on your phone means you sleep less and have poorer quality shut-eye, which is known to impact the brain.
They estimated posting at night accounted for two per cent of the variation in someone’s mental wellbeing.
The effect was equal to what previous studies have pinned on binge drinking or using cannabis.
Polling by YouGov shows nine in 10 Brits look at their phones within an hour of going to bed.
Supports case for curfews or wind-down features
Study author Daniel Joinson said: “Our paper highlights the potential harm of night-time content posting.
“Research like ours could help inform interventions or legislation that aim to deter harmful social media use.”
The study used data from 310 UK adults to compare the mental health of people who tweeted late – between 11pm and 5am – with people who posted in the daytime.
It found the night owls scored an average of four to eight points lower out of 70.
Writing in the journal Scientific Reports, he said the results support calls for curfews or “wind-down” feature in apps to help people stop scrolling at night.
Help for mental health
If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support.
The following are free to contact and confidential:
- Samaritans, www.samaritans.org, 116 123
- CALM (the leading movement against suicide in men) www.thecalmzone.net, 0800 585 858
- Papyrus (prevention of young suicide) www.papyrus-uk.org, 0800 068 41 41
- Shout (for support of all mental health) www.giveusashout.org/get-help/, text 85258 to start a conversation
Mind, www.mind.org, provide information about types of mental health problems and where to get help for them. Call the infoline on 0300 123 3393 (UK landline calls are charged at local rates, and charges from mobile phones will vary).
YoungMinds run a free, confidential parents helpline on 0808 802 5544 for parents or carers worried about how a child or young person is feeling or behaving. The website has a chat option too.
Rethink Mental Illness, www.rethink.org, gives advice and information service offers practical advice on a wide range of topics such as The Mental Health Act, social care, welfare benefits, and carers rights. Use its website or call 0300 5000 927 (calls are charged at your local rate).
Heads Together, www.headstogether.org.uk, is the a mental health initiative spearheaded by The Royal Foundation of The Prince and Princess of Wales.
Smile Makers The Poet review: this sex toy is as good as the real thing — if not better
LOVE foreplay but have a lazy partner? Then Christmas has come early — ahem.
Meet The Poet by Smile Makers. Made with clever air-suction technology, this toy is no ordinary vibrator.

The Poet, £79.95 £55.95 from Smile Makers
It’s designed for earth-shattering clitoral orgasms. Add a bit of lube, and it practically mimics real oral sex — a godsend for those of us whose partners skip foreplay… or are single.
As a devoted fan of oral, I like to make it the main course — who needs guys anyway?
Its silky-smooth silicone material feels amazing against the skin, and with three interchangeable heads, you can find your perfect fit.
It’s already racking up glowing reviews and boasts a 4.7-star rating online — so guys, consider yourselves warned!
Pros
- Rechargeable battery
- Three interchangeable ‘mouths’
- Cheaper than similar toys on the market
- Waterproof
- Very quiet (if not totally silent)
- Two-year guarantee
- Five pulsation modes
Cons
- Better for solo play than intercourse
- There are already similar products on the market
- Packaging could be more enticing
Rating: 9/10
Quickfire Q&A
How much is The Whisperer? It’s a bit pricey at £79.95, though it’s cheaper than some alternatives. And it’s currently on sale for just £55.95.
Who’s it best for? It’s been designed specifically for women, though you can use the clever tip on your partner’s nipples if you fancy spicing things up — trust me, men love it! That said, this toy really shines for women, solo play and anyone who loves oral sex.
What I loved: All Smile Makers products are made from silky-smooth silicone that moulds to your body. The clitoral suction vibrator comes with three interchangeable heads, so you can find your perfect fit for maximum pleasure. Plus, the clever air-suction technology keeps it whisper-quiet — ideal if you’re heading home for Christmas or staying with the in-laws.
What I didn’t: Honestly? It’s hard to find a flaw with this product. If anything, the packaging could be a little sexier — though perhaps that’s a clever marketing move to make it look more discreet.
How I tested The Poet

The Poet, £79.95 £55.95 from Smile Makers
As The Sun’s Sexpert, I’ve tried my fair share of vibrators over the years — you can read my round-up of the best sex toys for women.
Where possible, I test the toys by myself, and then my partner is usually roped in for a test drive (not that he ever minds!).
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The Nitty Gritty
First impressions
Okay, so the packaging could be a little more enticing, but once opened, the toy itself is very pretty and female-friendly.
Its purple-rose design is elegant enough to sit on your bedside table — no need to hide it away in a drawer.
The instructions are simple to follow, and the toy is easy to use.
Does it… Deliver?

The Poet, £79.95 £55.95 from Smile Makers
As someone who loves oral sex, I can honestly say this is one of the best air-suction toys I’ve tried.
I actually prefer it to toys from Womanizer, one of the first brands to use this kind of clitoral stimulation technology.
It’s more comfortable to use, gentler yet somehow more powerful, and much prettier too.
Add plenty of lube and it really can feel as good — if not better — than the real thing.
It really can feel as good — if not better — than the real thing.
And yes, lads, you might want to be a little worried about that!
It’s also waterproof, so you can elevate your bathroom game with a cheeky solo session in the shower or bath.
Plus, it’s rechargeable (no more faffing about with batteries) and comes with a cute satin bag to tuck it away in.
How much is The Poet?
At £79.95, it’s cheaper than its racy rival, the Womanizer, as well as Lelo’s Sona 2, which, until trying this, was the best I’d tried.
Plus, it’s currently on sale for £55.95.
Lelo’s Sona 2 is pricier at £100.62 (currently on sale).
So, while this toy is a little up there in price, it’s still more affordable than many other premium brands — and it comes with a two-year guarantee.
Orgasms that are insured — what’s not to love?
Where to buy The Poet
Thanks to the sale, the best place to buy The Poet is probably the Smile Makers website.
But, it’s also available from retailers like SheSpot and Cult Beauty.
It’s worth shopping around, as different sites often run their own discounts.
Alternatives

At the premium end of the market, the Womanizer Next retails at £189 – almost £100 more than The Poet.
Both use air-tech suction, are whisper-quiet, waterproof, and made from soft silicone.
But I find the Womanizer a bit more rigid and less comfortable to hold and use than The Poet.
At the budget end, there’s LoveHoney’s Clitoral Rose Suction, which is super cute and very reasonably priced at £54.99.
It also uses clever air-tech suction technology and is waterproof, but it’s not as comfortable to hold as The Poet, which seems to mould perfectly to the body.
Then, bang in the middle, there’s Lelo’s Sona 2.
Like the Womanizer, it specialises in air-suction clitoral stimulation and is one of my favourite toys.
But The Poet is cliterally the best — and cheaper.
The Verdict
If you love oral sex and either have a lazy partner or are happily single, this is the toy for you.
Perfect for solo play, it’s actually better — dare I say it — than the real thing!
No nagging required: just press a button, lie back, and let it do all the work.
Plus, it makes the perfect XXXmas stocking filler — super small, super quiet and super subtle.
So when you sneak off for your post-lunch festive ‘nap’, no one will ever suspect a thing…
- The Poet,
£79.95£55.95 from Smile Makers – buy here