Zuko Komisa
Anonymous’s exhaustion and overwhelming need for quiet rest late in her pregnancy conflict with her husband’s insistence on maintaining the five-year tradition of hosting Christmas at their home.
Though the physical work is covered, she fears the emotional and sensory overstimulation of hosting will compromise her well-being, leaving her torn between family tradition and her immediate physical needs.
“Uncle T, I’m pregnant and due in January. Ever since my husband and I got married 5 years ago, Christmas has always been at our house. But this year, I told him I don’t think I can host. Not because I don’t appreciate the tradition, but because I’m exhausted – physically, mentally, emotionally.
I feel heavy, slow, and overwhelmed, and the idea of a full house right now feels like too much. My husband insists that I won’t have to lift a finger. He says my sisters, he himself, and both our mothers will handle everything, and all I need to do is “be present.” But Uncle T, hosting isn’t just about cooking and cleaning. It’s the noise.
The movement. The constant questions. The energy of people in your space. The pressure to smile and be pleasant. And whether you do the work or not, you’re still the centre of the home – people naturally gravitate toward you. I know they mean well, but the truth is: this pregnancy has humbled me. I don’t have the capacity I used to. I need quiet. I need rest. I need softness. I’m scared that if we host, I’ll be overwhelmed, overstimulated, and unable to breathe in my own home.
But I don’t want to come across as ungrateful or dramatic. I want to protect my peace without breaking a family tradition. So now I’m torn between a husband who wants things to stay the same and a body that is telling me loudly that this year is different.
Uncle T, how do I make him truly hear me? How do I honour our traditions without abandoning myself and what I need right now? – Anonymous”
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