Katlego Sekhu
A listener shared that she’s in a relationship with a man she deeply loves. However, he comes from a polygamous family, and that worries her.
She’s concerned that he might one day follow in his father’s footsteps. Although he has assured her that he has no plans to take more than one wife, he hasn’t completely ruled out the possibility.
Now, Anonymous is torn. Part of her wants to believe him, but another part wonders if it’s better to leave quietly before heartbreak finds her later.
“I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and things have been good overall. But there’s one thing I can’t seem to shake off – he comes from a polygamous family. His father has three wives, and while I don’t judge that lifestyle, it’s not something I see for myself.
“Whenever I’ve asked him if polygamy is something he personally wants, he never gives me a clear answer. He always says, “I’m not thinking about that right now,” but he also doesn’t completely rule it out. He’s the firstborn son to his mother, and though he’s never said he plans to follow in his father’s footsteps, the uncertainty unsettles me.
“He’s 33 and talks often about wanting to settle down and start a family. I love him deeply, but the possibility – even a small one – that polygamy might be part of his future makes me anxious. I know for sure that I don’t want to be in a polygamous marriage, and the fact that he can’t say, “That’s not for me,” leaves me feeling insecure and unsafe emotionally.
“Sometimes I even think about walking away quietly, or just ghosting him, though I know that’s not the right way to handle things. My friends and family think I’m overreacting and say I shouldn’t judge him based on his upbringing – that I should give things time. But how do I stay in something where I already feel uneasy? Uncle T, am I stressing about something that might never happen, or is my discomfort a sign I shouldn’t ignore? What could be my blind spot here?”
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