Anonymous is frustrated with her husband
Katlego Sekhu
A listener shares that she and her husband started out working in retail and gradually built a better life together. While she was studying to improve their future, her husband was a constant source of support.
After graduating, she bought a minibus taxi to help her husband launch a business. Now that things are going well, she says he treats the vehicle, which she purchased with her own money, like his personal toy.
Anonymous is frustrated with his behaviour and unsure how to address it without sounding disrespectful.
Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, she wants to know if there are any blind spots she may be overlooking.
“My husband and I met while working in retail – same mall, different stores. After about two years of dating, he encouraged me to go back to school, and I studied teaching. He stayed in retail and, despite the challenges, he pushed through and even paid lobola.
“I completed my studies in 2022 and got a teaching job in 2023. Since I was earning more, we agreed that he should leave his retail job, and together we started a food joint. Things were going well, and instead of buying myself a car, we decided to buy a Quantum so he could start a school transport business and make extra income. At first, everything went smoothly, but since around February this year, that Quantum has become a nightmare.
“Every weekend, it turns into his and his friends’ ride – they move around with it, doing as they please. I’ve spoken to him respectfully about it, and though he said he’d do better, nothing has changed. We bought the Quantum to help him create stability and contribute financially to our home, but now I’m starting to regret it.
“I want to tell him to stop using it on weekends unless it’s for serious reasons, but I don’t want it to sound like l’m undermining him just because I earn more or I am the one paying for it. How can I establish boundaries without hurting his feelings or giving the impression that l’m taking control? What could be my blind spot here?”
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